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Sex Toys + Novice Lesbian = Disaster!

As a self-confessed novice Lesbian (11 years ago), I decided to surprise my then girlfriend (my now wife), with a sex toy. We had been dating for all of 3 months and were both extremely adventurous, so bringing a sex toy into the bedroom was, naturally, the next step!

I stumbled onto a website that sold toys on-line - there was no way I was going into a sex toy shop in Somerset West, where I was well known just to be seen by my local librarian, buying a strap-on!

Well…Spank me gently Georgina! I thought a strap-on was a strap-on was a strap-on! Not true – there were BIG ones and little ones, vibrating and still (almost like Valpré), double sided and singles, pink, blue, black and yellow…how was I ever going to make my choice? The thought did occur to me to just go down to the sex shop but bumping into a client or that darn librarian would have just been mortifying!

So I chose one that was pretty – since my girlfriend was pretty! I didn’t want to scare her and make her run for the hills screaming “Loony Lesbian on the Loose” at the top of her lungs! Somerset West was a small town then – I would never get any business again and would have to move to Pofadder and make a living from alphabetizing books in the local library with the librarian watching over me!

I paid the R256 (postage and packaging included) – thank goodness for modest packaging! Imagine going to collect a parcel at the little post office in Heldevue and out comes a box with SEX TOYS ON-LINE stamped all over it. The only indicator that my parcel was that of a suspicious nature was the little label on the back that said: If undelivered, please return to XXX Manufacturers of fine Plastics! I demurely informed the post office lady that it was Tupperware!

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Magic Mike Review


I wasn’t spellbound by Magic Mike. In fact, I was quite agitated by it.

I saw the premiere of Magic Mike on the 11th of July at The Zone where my five gay friends and I, together with the rest of the cinema of ladies, were treated to a free live strip show, Grazia magazine and Jimmy Jagga’s before the movie has even started. I’m still not sure if it was a pleasant experience though.

Despite one of the sexiest trailers I have ever seen. I wasn’t asking for much when I hoped Magic Mike would be stripper version of High School Musical. All the audience was expecting to see was a simple Rom. Com. with some great stripper scenes to add to the spank bank, instead we got a confused, sloppy film trying to ride on Channing Tatum’s fine ass (and that’s my job Honey…).

Even though this “film” (and I use that word flippantly) was directed by the Oscar winning Steven Soderbergh it tried to be both deep and dark AND sexy and fun but only ended up being neither. I will try and piece together a storyline for you but I am reading in between the very badly written lines here.

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RIP Sally Ride: first woman in space, science advocate, lesbian

Sally Ride, the first American woman to fly in space, died Monday after a 17-month battle with pancreatic cancer, her company said. She was 61.

"Sally lived her life to the fullest, with boundless energy, curiosity, intelligence, passion, commitment and love. Her integrity was absolute; her spirit was immeasurable; her approach to life was fearless," read a statement on the website of Sally Ride Science, a company she started to help teach students -- particularly young women and girls -- about science, math and technology.

Read more on CNN.

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Hell hath no furry like a Muppet scorned

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Are lipstick lesbians real lesbians?

Twelve years ago, a 16 year old version of myself stood in front of the mirror. I have come to the realisation that I am attracted to women, and the thought scared me. Up to that point, the thought of being lesbian has never, not even once, occurred to me. And now, in the quiet of my room, I dared ask the question: Am I a lesbian? Looking in the mirror, I knew that I obviously couldn't be a lesbian. Everybody knew that all lesbians look like male truck drivers. And I like dresses, and heels, and floral prints, and pretty earrings, and lipstick. Clearly, I couldn't be a lesbian. Which led me to the question – then why am I attracted to women and not men? I should have intuitively known that who you are attracted to has nothing to do with how you express your gender, yet society has taught me otherwise.

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Pet Shop Boys' new mucic video features Trans Rollergirl and promotes equality

Just in time for the London Olympics, the Pet Shop Boys released the video for their new single "Winner", featuring London Rollergirls and "Dirty Diana", a trans member of the team. The London Rollergirls is an all-women roller derby league that promote charity, teamwork and confidence in women by embracing all women regardless of body shape, occupations, sexual orientation, race or nationality.

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New Lana Del Rey music video is a tale of lesbian love and broken hearts

Lana Del Rey is joined by  Hollywood actress Jaime King in her new music video ‘Summertime Sadness’. The video tells the story of a lesbian love affair that ends in a double suicide.

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Harrods Toy Kingdom moves towards being gender neutral

London department store Harrods made a ground-breaking move to make its new multi-sensory toy zone less gender-specific. The Harrods Toy Kingdom had its grand launch on Saturday 14th July, following in the footsteps of Hamleys, which removed "boy" and "girl" signposts from its shop last December, the London department store has deliberately organised its new multi-sensory toy zone by theme rather than sex. According to Dr Laura Nelson, who led the campaign against Hamleys and has set up a gender stereotypes project in schools to tackle the issue. "Gender stereotyping of toys restricts the choices of children and their parents; it influences the activities children engage in, their interests and skills and ultimately the roles they take in society," she said. "Until all toys and the shop layouts are completely gender-neutral, there will always be pressure on girls and boys to pursue the route in life consistent with their stereotype."

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Adorable Vintage Photos of Gay Love

Here is a fun, sweet, romantic collection of vintage photos of gay male couples. Enjoy!

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What Does Queer Mean?

Queer is an umbrella term for sexual minorities that are not heterosexual, heteronormative, or gender-binary.In the context of Western identity politics the term also acts as a label setting queer-identifying people apart from discourse, ideologies, and lifestyles that typify mainstream LGBT (lesbian, gay, bisexual, and transsexual) communities as being oppressive or assimilationist.

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