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South Africa too pussy for Pussy Riot? #freepussyriot

Anyone on social media in the last month or so has been bombarded by the Free Pussy Riot campaign. And rightly so. But are we too pussy to free the South African Pussy Riot?

The Russian controversy surrounded the issue of free speech, particularly in protest of the dominant politics of the country and government. The South African Pussy Riot does not exist, of course. But it should. And if it did, it would have the above-mentioned issues in common with its Russian counterpart, but would have to centre around realities and issues much more important than a political statement. The SA version would, and should, centre around the very personal and dire issues of the empowerment of women – a real PUSSY Riot.

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What is it that our ‘gaydars’ pick up in a person?

If you are gay, you have probably heard of the ‘gaydar’. I am not referring to the gay sex/hookup site, but rather the ability to tell that someone else is gay, just by looking.

Urban dictionary defines a ‘gaydar’ to be: “The ability/gift of being able to detect homosexuality in other people.”

But is it really a gift? A sixth sense that we were born with when we our DNA decided that we were gay?

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Mom? Dad? I'm gay.

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Safer sex for lesbians

It is funny how most people I come across classify lesbian relationships as safe from a sexual perspective – there is no risk of accidental pregnancy, and many assume that lesbian sex carries no risk of Sexually Transmittable Diseases (STDs), including HIV/AIDS. My parents, especially my father said “I’m glad that you’re a lesbian, because you won’t die of AIDS”. However, lesbians are still at risk of contracting HIV/AIDS and other STDs. Contrary to popular belief, lesbian woman are not as safe as they would like to think.

Do you personally practice safe sex? Do you get tested for HIV regularly? Well, let’s explore safer sex for lesbians (or women who sleep with women).

Lesbians are indeed at low risk of HIV infection. However, sex between women are not always safe, and lesbians are just as vulnerable to certain sexually transmitted diseases (STDs) as women who have sex with men. It is therefore important that women know what the risks are, and what they can do to protect themselves.

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Queer Reflections


Local Butch

 


Domestic Goddess

 


Gender-less

 


Hot in the Southern Region

 


I'm ready for my close up, Mr Deville

 

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Through the Bifocal Lens

I am very open about my sexual orientation, because that is ultimately what it is. It is how I choose to orient myself sexually and both sexes are included, although not at the same time. Being this open has its liberations however it also has its detriments. I am sure you have heard bisexuals say this many times. It depends on the person and really, it does.

Some lesbians tend to be weary of bisexuals thinking that they ultimately will never go the long haul in a woman to woman relationship, whilst other lesbians brag about only landing straight women thinking they have the unique power to convert. Many men are open to the fact that lesbian action turns them on and what most fail to realise is that many lesbian women feel nauseous at the thought of sperm and ejaculation. I have experienced in both genders a lurking background monster where my partner would fear me running off with their opposite sex thinking that I would “crave that experience again” which can be quite stress full on a relationship.

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Surviving Cape Town: A single lesbian’s attempts

I’ve been living in Cape Town for almost nine months. I love your mountain and your beaches. I enjoy how you knock-off work early, and that you don’t scream at each other during rush hour traffic. I like your graffiti-sprayed trains, and your white-uniformed navy.

However, it has been a huge challenge to connect with people. And by ‘connect’ I don’t just mean you randomly adding me on Facebook. I mean real connections: the proper, face-to-face, long-lasting kind. Capetonians, you do have a reputation for being ‘cliquey’, and I thought I had come prepared. Now I know that I was woefully underprepared. Woefully. Like when you don’t bother to study for a difficult exam, even though you saw the model answers floating around somewhere.

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The myth of the Afrikaans Lesbiër.

So there I was. Sixteen and confused about how to approach the subject; you know, that subject. The one that makes you blush every time you would walk in the mall with your mom and you would spot a gay magazine next to her new copy of “Sarie”. Yes, I was born Afrikaans and am a lesbian. I hated that word. Did not have any love for it at all, especially not its Afrikaans counterpart. Lesbiër. Sounded like the name of a foreign exchange student no one dared talk to because of her moustache. It sounds like you should have a mop of hair on your chest.

Fast forward some ten plus years later and that word still sits rather uncomfortably with me. I do not define myself as anything but me, really. And yes, I have had really angry gay, bi, gender-queer and straight people hitting me metaphorically over the head to try and label me. I look slightly butch, but I don’t act it. My character is soft, but I have taken down men who have tried to mug me. I’m not a show off and I’m not part of the scene. What does that make me? Well…some would say I’m batman. Yes, laugh I know you are holding your mouth over your hand as you are reading this. But that is the problem; Afrikaans lesbians either identify with the local scene or they run away from it. Some form subcultures like the famous GAT parties which are predominantly an Afrikaans run and visited spot.

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The Overly Accepting Father

I wish everyone had the privilege of having a father who is TOO overly accepting.

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I now "pronouns" you Gay

Remember back to a time in South Africa when homosexual marriages were not legal? Well now it is! How exciting is that? In 2006, gay marriages were declared legal in our beautiful country and once again the gays went crazy! Some of us celebrated like Bafana Bafana won the world cup, others ran off to Robben Island to get married. Sadly, most of those marriages ended in divorce. The wedding bug bit me a few years after. Yes, I was on my way to get married. Of course, not everyone wanted to believe it because marriage is something so serious and I, well as you may have noticed, am not a very serious person. So I decided to start sending out invitations. The invite went a little like this. “Come and share in this very Gay occasion with us. Close friends and family, nothing big, budget is a little small. Enjoy a light seafood platter (how ironic to have something fishy at a lesbian wedding reception), and finger treats (mom was not impressed with this one).”

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What Does Queer Mean?

Queer is an umbrella term for sexual minorities that are not heterosexual, heteronormative, or gender-binary.In the context of Western identity politics the term also acts as a label setting queer-identifying people apart from discourse, ideologies, and lifestyles that typify mainstream LGBT (lesbian, gay, bisexual, and transsexual) communities as being oppressive or assimilationist.

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